Wednesday, 9 June 2010

The Devil does NOT Wear Prada

Mum and I was on our favourite playground at the weekend and the queue was long for the swings. There are only two swings in our area but we need more! Did the government put them up as a teaser or to encourage us to be more "active" than just hanging in the swing? It's nice for Mum when I'm not active for even few minutes and I get to enjoy the swing so it's a win-win situation. Back to the long queue, we are waiting while two kids are put into one swing and they start feeling uncomfortable after the first swing. The boy starts crying and the girl (who is a bit older) starts shouting at him and their granny tells them to stop crying/shouting/moving so that she can release them. Granny is having a hard time so another parent helps her. Mum couldn't help at that time because I was eyeing up the swing and getting all fidgety in her arms. Mum felt sorry for the granny but I felt happy to see that empty swing!

The regulars who frequent that playground knows that the boy and girl mentioned are a bit of a trouble-maker and their grandparents can't handle them. While on the swing, I can see them hassling a bigger kid for his tricycle and his dad carries the bigger kid and the tricycle and heads off somewhere else. Then they start on another girl who wants to play on the slide but both of them are sitting on it and teasing her so her mum takes her to the other end of the playground. Why are the parents not saying anything to the Granny or the boy and girl? I guess that it is more civilised to turn away from the problem but for how long can they do that? I'm sure Mum would do or say something if I was being bullied. Her weakness is not able to speak in Cantonese but her angry face is enough to scare anyone and I'm just talking about the adults here!

Mum is nodding "hello" to the other parent swinging her kid on the next swing and compliments how cute her kid is. The other parent just gives a smile...without a "thank you". There's a lack of common courtesy in Hong Kong and Mum should be used to this by now but she's not. She says a lots of "thank you, please and sorry" and she kind of expects other people to do the same and also nags Dad to take up the good habit but he says that "thank you, please and sorry" are for distant people - it doesn't have to be used with closed friends and relatives. Blame the bollywood movies especially "Maine Pyaar Kiya"..one of the movie's famous dialogue is "Dosti Mein, No Thank You No Sorry" which means "In Friendship, No Thank You No Sorry".  Mum makes the extra effort to tell my helper to say "thank you, please and sorry" when needed because I'm with the helper more than Mum&Dad. Mum even told her nieces and nephews to get into that good habit. She spares no one! God help me with my growing days!!

11 comments:

Buckeroomama said...

Good on you, Mommy, for keeping up with the "please, thank you, sorry" bits... with everyone!

Aries said...

I grew up with that habit of saying please, thank you and sorry even to my mum, my grandma and now to my sons. I remembered when I was very young, I was playing at the porch and grandma came out and hand me a glass of water, I said thank you and my next door neighbor was there at that time, look at me in surprised and said "Hah, grandma also you say thank you?" in broken Malaysian English. That's why so many people take others for granted now a days.

Mahmee said...

Your mum is a wise woman Ash.
M.

Stacey 18 said...

I love manners as well. I'll make any child that comes into my house use theirs - my house my rules. Thank you for coming to visit us at 3 sisters 365. I actually look forward to see if you visited us or not. So the park parents are the same the world over. We can only work on our own children can't we. Have a great week!!

From the 3 sisters 365,
Natasha, Stacey and Holly

RoseBelle said...

Common courtesy is just not common anymore. I love the olden days when people were polite and kind to one another. Nowadays, it seems parents are too busy working to raise their kids with morals and values. Ash, you're in good hands with your mom.

Mr. Stupid said...

Glad you got to play on the swing. Being polite is a good thing. Even though, others don't realize it, we should stick to our ways. Your Mom's doing a nice thing being polite to everyone.

That granny seems to be so helpless with those kids. I just hope they change and fast.

Great post. Have a good day...:)

Lx - my mr lugs said...

Can't believe you have to line up for the swing.... that is terrible!! I think it is important to be polite... always :)

Serline said...

Living in Hong Kong without Cantonese? That's tough! I guess I am in the same boat, still not much Thai after more than 2 years here. Guess I'm not a language guru...

By the way, Narelle's patient listener was Snowy. That spot under our bed is her favourite.

Libbie said...

THis is pretty cute! Ash is one smart babe :) Actually he is adorable! Kids are either swingers or not, aren't they! I found that out with my own kids! One LOVES it & the other 2 are not really sold on it yet :) Glad you got a turn Ash!!!

THanks for stopping nice by today! I love making new friends around the world! Can't wait to get to know you more!

ModernMom said...

A line up for the swinh. ug That does make it hard to mind ones manners:)

ps Thanks for the kind words on my blog the other day...

Natasha said...

I see that Stacey beat me to saying that we have the same problems over here too!

I love good manners-your mum is very smart!

Best wishes,
Natasha.

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